Last week I talked about holding an image of yourself, your future self, in your mind. How does that future version of you show up today (read more here).
Today I’d like to talk about that voice….you know the voice inside your head. It’s the voice that rarely encourages you, rarely makes you feel your true Self-Worth. And in Fact if you were caught saying the things you say to yourself to another person….well let’s just say it wouldn’t be very pretty.
Did you know that your inner dialogue (aka that “voice in your head”) is one of the biggest influencers on your confidence and self-worth?
If your self-talk is positive and empowering – fantastic!
That didn’t happen by accident. You developed a HABIT of speaking to yourself that way, and your life likely reflects that positivity.
But if your self-talk tends to be on the negative side (which is the case for a LOT of people), I’ve got some coaching tips that can help you turn it around.
The first thing to know is that you are NOT your thoughts. That little voice in your head can say a LOT of things that aren’t always true.
That internal noise is called “thought chatter” or what one of my coaches calls it…”monkeys of the mind” – and it’s a process that happens when your brain isn’t otherwise engaged. You can think of this chatter as a body process, like digestion or breathing. It’s just a byproduct of your brain doing its job.
OK so here is cool Coach Tip #1 – You can gain control over it! In fact, when you work with intention in your life. You have 100% Domain over this crazy monkey chatter.
Here is how you can create this mindset dominion for yourself, do these things and let your thoughts be something empowering that helps you reach your goals (instead of derailing you) …
RECOGNIZE IT – the first step is to be aware that it’s even there in the first place! Pay attention to yours today – how often do the monkeys show up, aimlessly swinging from branch to branch??
BLESS IT – As soon as you notice the negative self-talk happening, acknowledge it for what it is (and isn’t)!
It’s not about criticizing yourself, in fact, treat it like a blessing, a gift. This is just the uncontrolled chaos that when you are intentional becomes a powerful force in your life. Your ability to take control and re-align is what makes us truly human and powerful. Yes! It’s a Gift and a Blessing, but you have to take control and action to put it to use.
OK, so instead of beating yourself up about the negative message coming through, do this instead: THINK, “I hear you in there – thanks for showing up and reminding me how powerful I truly am and reminding me to be intentional with my thoughts and actions Today!”
REDIRECT IT – After you notice it and bless it, take the action to fully engage your power and turn those thoughts around fast.
Example: let’s say you are feeling stressed from work, and your internal chatter is telling you to skip your workout because you’re too tired and grouchy.
Turn that around by telling yourself your workout will lift you OUT of this mood and give you the exact boost you need (because it actually WILL!).
REPLACE IT – This is a proactive approach. Instead of redirecting the negative self-talk AFTER it starts, come up with some positive thoughts that have meaning to you. Then, repeat them to yourself several times a day.
Ideas: “I am confident and unstoppable.” “I feel strong and motivated.” “I’m really proud of how well I’m doing with my fitness routine.”
Negative thoughts are not something you should ever be ashamed of … every human on this planet has them. And the more stressed you are, the more negative stuff that surrounds you, the more frequently these negative thoughts occur. Accept it, Bless it,
The key is to become aware of them and to replace them with ideas and thoughts that help you build CONFIDENCE and feel good about yourself… not tear you down and beat you up.
Life is too short to let negative self-talk lie to you and prevent you from living the life you are MEANT TO LIVE. Don’t you agree?
Committed to your Success,
P.S. I know it’s not always easy to take that first step. You’re not alone, and we’ve got your back. Just comment below and we can set up a time to talk about your goals and how I can help.
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